What central story is at the core of you, and how do you share it with the world? (Bonus: Consider your reflections from this month. Look through them to discover a thread you may not have noticed until today.)
A do-er not a bullshitter.
Brutal blunt honesty is my method of delivery.
I do the opposite of the rest of the herd.
In a crisis I will myself to be the stone in the raging river.
You need me at 8am? I am there at 7:30am.
I don’t stay late because I got done.
If you break it I want to help you fix it, just ask, don’t blame or lie, it’s ok if you fuck up. Really.
Honest to a fault.
If you play games I leave, I’m not a pawn for you.
This month, gifts and gift-giving can seem inescapable. What’s the most memorable gift, tangible or emotional, you received this year?
This year selling our first house and moving into a brand new one is probably the best gift. My wife and I started with nothing, I had a full time job making minimum wage, in 1998, she was in school and had a part time job at a restaurant. We had nothing but we were happy. No money from mom or dad, no loans. Just us and our dog. 12 years later we are in a brand new house, we haven’t sold out who we are in the process. We added some dogs too.
What’s the thing you most want to achieve next year? How do you imagine you’ll feel when you get it? Free? Happy? Complete? Blissful? Write that feeling down. Then, brainstorm 10 things you can do, or 10 new thoughts you can think, in order to experience that feeling today.
I want to get my soul back. I’ll feel pretty damn good. In no order…..
1. remove poisonous things from my life
2. Embrace what is good in my life
3. Uphold the code
4. Pay it forward
5. Find meaningful work and do it
6. Keep being who I am, asshat or no
7. Golden Rule
8. Surround myself with lifeboat builders and coconut washers
9. Embrace or Deflect
10. What is best in life?
Our most profound joy is often experienced during ordinary moments. What was one of your most joyful ordinary moments this year?
Sitting back and watching the A team have to do over a project at work. When your guy (me) says X and consultants you pay through the nose say X, do X not Y. We will talk about this for years to come.
What did you eat this year you will never forget? What went into your mouth & touched your soul?
Finally scoring some local grass fed beef. This “touched” me on several levels. Personally having an intimate connection to what I eat was huge. Knowing the source, standing on the very grass that fed the cow I consumed. Profoundly knocks you awake. Firmly roots your location in the “grand scheme of things.”
We’ve grown separate from the earthly cycles. Our digital bubbles so clinical. That contact with flesh is powerful and becoming forgotten.
Photo – a present to yourself.
Sift through all the photos of you from the past year. Choose one that best captures you; either who you are, or who you strive to be. Find the shot of you that is worth a thousand words. Share the image, who shot it, where, and what it best reveals about you.
I took these, nobody else wants to see my pale cracker ass half naked. It shows a bit of progress, I think. It can only get better. I just got a pood so we shall see.
Week 2 of Kettlebell, using a 20 pounder.
Week 8 of Kettlebell using a 20 pounder.
What was the best moment that could serve as proof that everything is going to be alright? And how will you incorporate that discovery into the year ahead?
The very best moment is seeing through all the bullshit and getting over being part of a game. You expect a certain level of bullshit and even tolerate it. You expect most people are not evil. The clarity of being proven wrong is so very sobering, to say the least. I never liked having to question friend or foe. The clarity. The black and white. The light cast from the shadows. Those shadows dancing and becoming twisted to throw the dog off the scent. Your true path, dangerous to me. Everything’s ok. You lit my torch and I can see through the darkness now. Really, a thank you. This ruse won’t win again. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Everything’s ok, now.